She is the author of four essay collections and two books of poetry.
Her second priority is self-defense. She is a member of Cell 16, which puts out the Journal, and is in a feminist study group. We are not only influenced by what goes on around us, we are conditioned and created by it. Desires and even needs can be created. We are all familiar with the ingenious techniques of Madison Avenue to generate insecurity in order to offer their product or service as a means of assuaging the insecurity.
The most effective techniques zero in on our fears of not being socially acceptable, not being loved, not being sexually attractive. The seeds of this insecurity exist already in a society whose ideology of individualism isolates people and throws the blame for all maladjustment and failure onto the individual.
We constantly hear the variations on this theme. It is used to avoid admitting that anything could be wrong with the way our society is set up. This isolates people and tends to make them insecure and unself-confident. They often can be brought to despise themselves because they see in themselves so many supposed weaknesses and psychological problems that prevent them from being happy, well-adjusted, and effective.
This is a characteristic of our society and isolates all of us, not just the women.
However, women, being the most oppressed, are forced to blame themselves the most for their impotence and thus despise themselves the most and are most isolated and afraid and anxious that no one will love them. The very isolation the individualist ideology imposes makes us desire even more to be loved and accepted, and fear even more being unlovable.
But we cannot escape our fears of being unlovable. In many cases it is explicitly sex. But the solutions all point to sex one way or another. Sex becomes magic, assumes a life of its own, making anything interesting, everything worthwhile.
It is this that many girls who would be most free to fight in the female liberation struggle are squandering valuable energy pursuing as an indispensable part of their lives.
And too often all they reap is demoralization, damaged egos, emotional exhaustion. As if present excess could make up for past deprivation. As if even total sexual fulfillment would change anything.
Except— is this true?
Are we chasing sexual fulfillment so earnestly because we have to prove that our politics are not just a result of our needing a good fuck? Then there is the issue of orgasms. Among those who were never well-adjusted and womanly enough to psych themselves into an orgasm while being vaginally stimulated by a man, there are some who, when they discover that their shame and misery were not only not unique but in fact extremely common and due to very straightforward anatomical causes, react to this discovery by feeling that they must make it up by demanding all the physical fulfillment they had been providing the men all along and missing themselves.
The liberation of sexual equality and the right to sexual pleasure is the solution for the future.
But is there any solution for the past? Is it a solution to go out and collect orgasms in order to make up for all those frustrated, self-loathing years? I say you can never make up for all that suffering, and certainly not through a mere physical sensation.
The worst part about it is that even with perfect sexual fulfillment, mutual guilt-free pleasure, we are still oppressed. Sexual relations in the world today and perhaps in all past ages are oppressive. The fact that your lover gives you an orgasm changes only one small part of that oppression namely the part that dictated that you had to see yourself as a creature who was allowed only the muted, sensuous, semi-masochistic pleasure of getting fucked and never the direct active transcendent pleasure of orgasm.
If that were the only injustice, or even the major injustice, done us, we would be very well off indeed. In fact, we would probably be able to bear it without concern, certainly without misery and self-loathing.
Some men do the dinner dishes every night. He, in the power and glory of his maleness, condescended to do something for her. It will never mean more than that until the basic power relations are changed.
As long as men are the superior caste and hold the political power in the class relationship between men and women, it will be a favor your lover is doing you, however imperiously you demand it.
And beyond that one thing, nothing else need have changed. Husbands were commanded to love their wives, wives to obey their husbands. It was cruel and insufferably hypocritical.A great vintage beach house sign - free printable would be cute in a pool house Maya Angelou (text an excerpt from her poem "Phenomenal Woman") #feminism See more.
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[Quadrangle, ]). Dana Densmore has been active in the women ’s movement in Boston since June, She helped start A Journal of Female Liberation (No More Fun and Games, The Female State), and her main energies have been devoted to it, as she believes that the dissemination of ideas and.
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